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I am a 22 year-old grad student studying Psychology. I debated on the collegiate circuit for four years during my undergraduate studies.

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August 12, 2018 18:24:19

I love that they are offering more healthy options! I do sometimes go to Starbucks and wish there were healthier options or ones that even were just less sugary. To me a frappachino is essentially a milkshake with more ice and less milk, but usually that doesn’t stop me if I am really feeling like having one!

August 10, 2018 23:43:30
July 31, 2018 23:01:06

I think this system would be a good one to take bits and pieces from. I agree with you that pure replication of the policy peobably would not yield great results, I think that stronger background checks, mental health screenings, in-person meetings are the sort of things that could bring out a stronger, more effective, and less dangerous system in America. I think we can take policies like this as an example of solutions and changes being possible if we are willing to work towards them.

July 25, 2018 23:23:06

I really like the distinction you make between steady income and birthday or gift money. I think that is a really important distinction to make because it allows the child to practice budgeting and saving, all things that they will need in adulthood! Allowances seem like a safe place to start learning these concepts at a young age.

July 25, 2018 22:58:41

It is so nice to have Apple coming out with a software update that removes the third party and can directly track time spent in apps! I think personally that change makes me more likely to try to put this practice into place!

July 25, 2018 22:57:13

I think there is a danger in the transition period to self-driving cars writ large where drivers may feel like they do not need to be as attentive/aware of their surroundings and they may put too much trust in the new technology. I also agree with your point about human unpredictability. The ability to adjust and thinking quickly in the driver seat is really important, but I think if the technology were to advance quickly enough and enough people began to use it that the computers could outpace our reaction time to things on the road.

July 25, 2018 05:32:50

I don't feel comfortable making a writ-large statement on how every girl (or her mother) should approach starting to wear makeup, but I will say that I worry that the rapid age decrease in the starting period could have a lot to do with the pressures put on women to "put their face on" and regularly wear makeup. I'm totally for women loving it and wearing it, but I am concerned that many young girls may see this as the norm and be uncomfortable straying from it or feel very early on somehow less like a girl if they choose not to wear it. I have noticed that young girls begin to be sexualized by society at a very young age and there is an enormous pressure to fit womanly society standards at a very young age instead of just being able to enjoy being a child. I couldn't say that there should be a strict limit on when girls begin wearing it, but I would say that these pressures are something important to keep in mind when deciding an appropriate age for your child to begin wearing makeup.

July 25, 2018 05:26:36

I agree! I have noticed this decline as well and it has been discussed in other similar online articles I have read recently. It seems that there is a big move by companies towards influencers with much lower follower counts like you said because it allows advertisers to access a much more targeted audience. I think the big danger is that it is hard for followers to feel like they exist to the influencer for any reason besides their role as a potential client. I personally have quickly become bored and frustrated by influencers that I have followers because they don't contribute much to my feed and like another user commented, the posts are typically quite boring. I think influencers will need to really adjust their marketing practices and find a niche that they can contribute quality material to and create value for their followers.

July 25, 2018 05:20:59

I think its fine for them to make a decision like that for office events and office-appointed food, but I don't think they should necessarily be controlling what people can bring in for lunch. But then again, I think they are within their right to make that sort of call for their office. What they would need to be aware of the fact that some people need meat for dietary reasons if they can't have other foods due to allergies or dietary restrictions in order to get nutrients. I would argue that there would need to be an exception people could have in those cases. But overall I don't think the company is doing something bad necessarily by making this no-meat commitment, no employee would be forced to continue working there if they took issue with it.

July 25, 2018 05:16:07

Now, I do think though that this is a good move towards opening up the college admissions process to students who don't perform well on these tests but otherwise are very smart and qualified students. The tests can't fully measure a student's potential to do well in university nor can it accurately judge many of student's others areas of strengths. The tests definitely make it easier for students to gain acceptance who have great test-taking skills compared to students who are great with the material but struggle with test taking for a variety of reasons.

July 25, 2018 05:11:43

I think this is an awesome idea! But I don't buy that this will increase access to low-income or minority students... I agree with you that personal statements, extra-curricular activities, ect. seem to benefit affluent students over these ACT/SAT scores. I would add to that list legacy admissions based on prior familial attendance to the university and preference given to children of university big-donors and supporters. I think there is a major risk that this is more of a PR move than a concrete commitment to increasing diversity and access to elite schools or in the best case, an attempt that needs more research and more work to ensure they make the college/university truly more accessible.

July 25, 2018 04:59:02

I think an important question here is does the content contribute to "racial discrimination," which I would argue that it does. Free speech is great, but it breaks down at the point where it begins to encroach upon other people's freedoms and facilitating racist and sexist ideology creates environments that can be hostile, violent, and could spill out of those virtual spaces into material consequences. I think Reddit is doing the right thing by removing these subreddits.

July 25, 2018 04:51:39

I agree that cisgendered people probably shouldn't be playing these parts. While I am concerned about how well a cisgendered person could portray an experience like this that is a very embodied and personal experience, I recognize that that sort of practice is the point of acting. I am more concerned about the harmful representation, having trans people watch a cis person portray their experience onscreen compared to the representation by someone who has shared their experience to some degree. I am uncomfortable with the industry passing by transgendered actors for these roles.

July 15, 2018 08:33:38

Wow! That's interesting to see the inflation even just within a few years in between employees!

July 15, 2018 08:32:58

You bring up some great points here! I have noticed the cheapening of bachelor's degrees as they become more commonplaces. It really is a huge issue because not every position actually needs a degree! But then we wind up with so many college graduates who will be overqualified or under qualified because of the pressure to just go to college and figure everything else out later! Thanks for your comment!

July 15, 2018 07:43:03

I agree! I'm really glad that they are stepping up and developing solutions on their own!

July 15, 2018 07:42:02

I read this article a while back and found it super interesting! I love that this teacher really takes the time to pay attention to the needs of each of her students. But holding this up as the model for all teachers puts the burden square on their shoulders to prevent this violence, which is not their job. I think there's potentially a danger in wishing the teachers could just do more when often times this is an issue that requires a multitude of interventions (relational, psychological, emotional, social, and educational). But I would think that these sorts of practices in the classroom could bring about a more positive environment for people to learn within.

July 15, 2018 07:38:06

Just because potential harms can't be eliminated completely doesn't mean we shouldn't work to minimize the effects and ultimate amount of those harms.

July 11, 2018 00:42:11

Yes! I know I personally would probably feel more quiet in a private room. But I see no problem with other people making a different choice! I can't believe the restaurant treated the woman like this, I really feel for her! That was such a harsh response and I would feel so ashamed after being treated like that :(

July 11, 2018 00:39:36

I have been reading similar pieces recently and I would agree that unpaid internships are becoming a pressing issue for many recent grads and current students. The option to work for a company that could potentially get you ahead in the workforce but for no pay or work for a job that pays but maybe won't advance your career is a really tough one! I remember having to make this choice multiple times during my undergraduate years and I wound up needing to choose the money every time. There just wasn't a way to take an unpaid internship and support myself while doing so and have enough money to make it comfortably through the following school year. I would imagine this is a real problem for many other students, especially those from low-income communities who may already be struggling to afford school or support themselves as they get started in their careers. I think that long-term there is a real problem with who can actually manage to do these unpaid internships and benefit from the job experience (which, I'll admit, from what I know is typically pretty great). I think there's a real risk that only students from higher income brackets or people with a lot of familial support can actually make this work. I do think unpaid internships as a general practice does mean that higher-income students can get a leg up while lower-income or minority students who are overlooked may get left behind.

July 10, 2018 22:11:40

It's true that for some kids art really is where their talent lies! And the world needs artists, people who know how to create art that speaks to us and helps us heal and work through life. Many great artists I'm sure fell in love with it initially inside classrooms and these first introductions to the art world.

July 10, 2018 22:10:32

Yes! All of these examples are perfect examples of the variety of reasons kids need access to the arts. It can be so therapeutic even in a casual environment! Thanks for your comment! I especially love the point you made about ACE's. For kids who come from chaotic or toxic households, art can be a way to process those experiences and provide an outlet if counseling is not available or if they are still searching for ways to express themselves and their experiences.

July 10, 2018 21:33:19

I would love to see more initiatives like this that are done by individual companies, rather than a writ-large ban that seems like a massive step for a government agency to take. BUT, I think that if we don't resolve the issue of how much plastic is in our oceans government intervention will become a necessity rather than an option. I do think its important for each company or state or restaurant who undertakes an important initiative such as this pays close attention to how it impacts different groups of people, especially when it comes to ability. Most able-bodied folk would have never thought of the issue that arose here. I think this means that more feedback is needed in these initiatives and for companies to be super responsive and willing to listen to people as they express what isn't working for them as a result of the initiatives. Overall, I think this is a great way to reduce plastic waste and for most people straws are not a necessity. But we have to still think through alternatives for people who do need straws and provide alternatives in a way that is comfortable and not stigmatizing.

July 10, 2018 21:11:32

Yeah! I hope the publicity ultimately draws attention to the cause and not just to her actions!

July 10, 2018 01:29:52

I don't think her action changes anything for the movement she claims to be protesting for. While it definitely got people's attention, created an interruptions to people's 4th of July activities, I am concerned that it (whether she meant for it to or not) got interpreted as only a publicity stunt or for show. I think this is a potentially ineffective model of political activism. I couldn't judge whether her intentions were for show or for advocacy, but I don't think it is an effective model for activism. What should we do in response to ICE's recent actions? I think the first meeting of the group had some clearly articulated responses to that issue.

July 10, 2018 01:20:59

I think a lot of the points suggested could be helpful. In particular, I am glad to see that a lot of funding is proposed for increased counseling and mental health resources. I think this is important for the environment of schools and helping kids have the resources they need to discuss mental health issues, family troubles, or social issues. I think this overall could create a healthier environment, which I hope would decrease instances of violence. I'm also glad to see that there is funding proposed for educational training for faculty and staff that could help them know how to handle potential issues. Overall though, I am concerned that things like metal detectors were "mentioned" in the report but not recommended.

June 26, 2018 01:09:42

I would consider it, but it would depend greatly on the quality of the job I could find remotely. I would be concerned about the trade-off in company benefits that would likely occur between a physical job and a remote one. I'm not sure that the moving bonus from the state could make up long-term for the negatives in working a remote job full-time (benefits, employee culture and community, and a more stable job).

June 26, 2018 01:07:11

This is what I assumed as well! That's very interesting!

June 26, 2018 01:05:44

I think there is a major issue with their model as it is set up right now; it relies on people not actually using the service in order to make money. For every person who pays the monthly fee, movie pass only makes money if they don't actually go see a single movie. One movie will cost $8-12 and cover the cost of the monthly payment. Any time they go to see a movie after that, MoviePass has to pay for them to go see that film. Now, this business model has worked great in other industries (think other subscription models that rely on you not remembering to "skip a month" or use the service that month and get product -- I've seen many of these in other industries like beauty and clothing products), but the issue with the film industry is that cost is generally the biggest inhibitor, so people are very likely to go to multiple movies because they realize what a deal this is. Now, all that said, I think its a great idea. I love the idea of getting more people into the movie theaters instead of just relying on Netflix, VOD, ect. But I think that without some crucial changes to their model, they could be seeing major losses in cash flow and could be in danger.

June 19, 2018 18:21:59

I think that the concept of a "woman's role" contributes TO the pay gap. That is why it is part of the discussion. And men can be nurturing; sexism would say that they can't be and that its not "in them." I don't understand your point if you're telling me that "Men can't be Mother men" but that stay-at-home-dads prove that men also do "women's roles." I don't believe women should be constrained to these roles, that was never my argument. But I do see that they are still restrained to these roles in many homes; even though they do go to work full-time jobs, research shows that they often go back home to what are called "second-shifts" where the majority of the housework still awaits them. All of those things you've listed that women have done are great, but that doesn't mean that the pay gap doesn't exist or that women still don't wrestle with cis-gendered notions of what womanhood looks like and are pressured to take more time off from work to care for their families, work more time at home and less at work, or be expected to stop or put their careers on hold to have children.

June 19, 2018 18:07:14

@mountain_drew -- Why does properly raising your child = giving spankings

June 19, 2018 18:06:26

@nicebucketyouhavetheremindifitakealook -- Thank you! I really do think the line between spanking/corporal punishment and domestic violence and abuse is pretty thin and often confused. I'm honestly not sure if a good line can be drawn

June 19, 2018 18:04:26

Yeah, this is a really tough point: what to do when kids are not responsive to forms of guidance and lighter punishments. I think an interesting place to start would be the concept of letting kids experience the consequences of their own actions, but not crossing into parents punishing their kids and withdrawing love and support. I'm not sure what looks like in every instance, but maybe working towards establishing healthy boundaries and strong relationships is a better way to begin rather than instilling fear. Kids need to have security in order to grow up into healthy, stable adults and spanking/hitting does not help them in that area. This article listed some neat examples of letting children deal with the logical consequences of their actions (for example: not putting their dirty clothes into the laundry hamper for parents to wash = they wear dirty clothes to school, or they don't come to dinner on time = no dinner that night). It's hard, but what it might do is open up space for children to learn how to make good choices. --

June 19, 2018 17:46:13

@thewholeburittoo -- Does it teach them "what is good and what is bad to do" or does it just teach them to act in ways that are perceptively "good" and avoid "bad" behaviors just under their guardian's watchful eyes. I am concerned that the practice of instilling fear in children about their parents could create a toxic culture in the family, distance between parents and children (which can lead to ineffective parenting because the parents don't actually know their children and their intentions/motives/personalities), and a power relationship that exerts control rather than relationship between parent and child. I'm not sure that spanking really works, what I do see from the research is that it creates a perception of it working, but only because the child may essentially go into hiding and hide themselves. I do like these alternative methods that you mentioned. And I think they could create healthier home environments. I don't agree with you that spanking/hitting "does work". But I do agree that people should avoid it!

June 19, 2018 17:39:43

@mountain_drew -- I love the idea of increased time outdoors. I spent lots of my childhood outside with my siblings and I definitely think it was beneficial to me! Although, I think my family waited too long to give me access to technology, I definitely feel the gap in my understanding and ability to use it effectively today.

June 19, 2018 17:38:16

@iaiwmlt -- That's an interesting point about brain development! Do you think we might be biased just because most people from our generation grew up in the midst of the transition to increased technology?

June 19, 2018 17:36:07

@garrett_the_man -- Why do you say that?

June 11, 2018 20:38:02

Nice!! yes. I love that about turning the phone off before bed. That sounds way healthier!

June 10, 2018 20:17:55

@garrett_the_man -- I agree, such a study could be very hard to come by. I do think though that the pattern of women taking more time off or having shorter career spans does have something to do with gender roles still. Women are expected to fulfill certain roles within the home that men would never be, even if the women are working full-time jobs and supporting the family monetarily.

June 10, 2018 20:15:17

I have also wondered about its effects on attention span. I have noticed, even as an adult, that the constant stimulation from notifications and random things-to-do on my phone have me bouncing all over the place during the day and makes it hard to focus, even when I'm not with my phone, I'm thinking about it and worrying if maybe I'm missing something. I'm curious to read more about this study, could you post a link to more information about it?

June 10, 2018 20:12:07

@JulianaH -- I appreciate your response and your point about books! What is your opinion on e-books?

June 10, 2018 20:11:01

@realgoathours - what would some boundaries be that parents or guardians could put in place to reach that balance? I'm curious to hear your thoughts!

June 4, 2018 04:57:34

I had no idea this was even potentially part of the admissions process until I happened to come across it in some research! I agree, that would be far better than giving them a special status in the application process.

May 31, 2018 01:53:26

Thanks for responding! I'll respond in order: 1) Just because it is "illegal" does not prevent it from occurring. Also, bringing up an issue with payment could very easily be read as just "complaining" or "asking for too much" without a larger shift towards respecting women's demands and equally valuing the work they produce. 2) re: companies just hiring more women because it costs less: Not necessarily, due to circulating perceptions of men being more rational, less emotional, reliable, not going to stay at home instead of working, ect., companies have a perceived interest in hiring men and offering them better work packages since they assume women will be more likely to leave work to stay at home with kids. I don't think that women work less in order to "spend time with friends," they may work less due to internalized pressures of what a woman's role in the home should be. There is still very much a perception circling that women are the primary caretakers and homemakers and that they are innately better at it then men, who are supposedly innately better at breadwinning. I also think that the fact that men "tend to occupy higher laying positions" is also potentially an issue with the way promotions get handed out and who we believe are the most qualified to lead and manage others (usually thats not women or people of color, but most especially women of color).

May 31, 2018 01:44:07

I'm glad to hear that there are many instances where this is not an issue because of the way the school weighs it! I found the Harvard example to be a fascinating example of the legacy system at work in the upper echelons of education, perhaps that is because they have the ability to be so picky. Hopefully there can be even more of a move towards evaluating those other factors besides legacy status!

May 31, 2018 01:40:19

I love that you bring up the brevity of social media! It can be such a fast way to spread information, which seems great at first, until we can become overwhelmed with sorting through all of it and knowing what is the most accurate and what has ulterior motives. I think there's a level of exhaustion that comes into play that we just haven't learned how to adapt to yet! Thanks for sharing your thoughts!

May 31, 2018 01:37:13

While I think this show has done something to start "discussion" around this topic, that discussion has mainly been back and forth about whether or not this show can start a discussion not how we can actually reach out and help people in our communities who are struggling. I think we also have a problem with romanticizing mental illness and/or suicide in women such that study or discussion around female suicides in particular requirer a greater amount of depth and understanding of the gendered history of the topic. Overall, I am very concerned that this show does more harm than good when there are alternative ways to get people to talk about this besides displaying it in such a graphic sense.

May 27, 2018 20:40:27

You have an agenda too. We all do. I think there is some validity to the environment factor. If you were a young person growing up in an environment where this was the norm, it would be very hard to not grow into it yourself. I think this is a social issue that requires more than just requiring a character check.

May 27, 2018 20:36:49

This is definitely an issue that could use the help of professional counselors. It can be very difficult to get out of addiction and I think mental health professionals can be very beneficial to helping survivors combat the thought patterns and habits that may be sustaining the addiction.

May 27, 2018 20:02:21

I agree with this! School days are already so long for children and it is hard to sit still and focus on typical education topics for long periods of time. Maybe if the longer school days included time for homework (so that when they go home they don't have to do anything school-related). if the hours were to increase, there would have to be some shift from educational work into personal development and extra-curricular work. While it might be easier for the parents, I'm not convinced that long days like that are best for the kids.

May 27, 2018 19:03:43

The reason for my disagreement is not that I disagree completely, my concern is found in how quickly we want to jump to more guns as a solution. I would be more interested in policies that reduce access to guns via age restrictions, increased gun checks and background/security checks. I am open to this option, but it would need to come with an intense period of training and security measures in order to justify adding more guns to the situation. I read your entire post, my issue is that this would require a number of safety measures beyond just "let teachers choose to carry guns and it will get better." To me, that is a similar carelessness to the question of who gets to carry a gun that has brought us to the issue we have today.